8|4|2025Hello, Gem.
How’s your heart? I pray it’s thriving. Let me tell you what’s been on mine.
Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation x K.M.
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What I’m sharing today is brief, impactful, and a much-needed reminder. Soak it in.
There’s a difference between forgiving someone and letting them back in. That truth used to sting… until I realized it was a form of self-protection wrapped in wisdom and discernment.
Forgiveness is about you. It’s the very instant you decide that bitterness won’t take root in your body. That you won’t keep rehearsing pain on a loop. That you’re choosing peace. And not just because they earned it, but because you deserve it.
Reconciliation, on the other hand, is a two-way street. It requires accountability, changed behavior, mutual trust, and time. And even then… not every relationship is meant to be restored.
Following me, Gem?
Some people won’t be able to meet you in the space you’re growing into. And that’s okay. Sometimes, they can’t and don’t have it in them to try. And sometimes, they simply don’t want to. It’s up to you to tap into your discernment and know the difference.
Sometimes the most radical act of love is setting someone free without dragging them back into your inner circle.
Gem, keep in mind that you can:
Forgive someone and still not call them back.
Release resentment without rebuilding the relationship.
Wish someone well without walking back into what broke you.
Forgiveness is freedom. Reconciliation is discernment. Both can be holy. But you must understand and acknowledge that they are not the same.
According to my research, here are some good questions to ask yourself when you’re torn:
Have they taken accountability or just said sorry?
Do I feel safe, seen, and respected around them now?
Am I healing toward peace, or guilt-tripping myself into proximity?
What version of me am I sacrificing to keep the connection alive?
Forgiveness doesn’t always look like a reunion. Sometimes it’s a quiet release, a long exhale, or a final prayer whispered before you move on. It could also be in the form of upholding a boundary. Other times, it’s a soft smile and silence instead of rehashing old wounds.
Whatever the case, I encourage you to remain kind, guard your heart, and prioritize your peace.
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Gem, share this blog with another woman who may be enduring a breakup—whether romantic, platonic, or family. You never know how much a reminder of peace can mean in the middle of letting go or taking space.
Until next time, I’m wishing you healing powers and redeeming strength. - K.M.
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